An American in India: My Arranged Marriage


by John Rambo

I am an American man living in India, married to an Indian girl. It was an arranged marriage, arranged by her parents. It was definitely not a “love marriage”, where a boy meets a girl and directly proposes to her and tries to “woo her”.

I feel that arranged marriages are actually much more stable than the fleeting passion “love marriages” of the West. India has the world’s lowest divorce rate, at around 1 percent.

Growing up in America, I did not have a very positive view of women. Sure, there were a few good girls that I knew, but mostly the women I knew were all whores, to put it bluntly.

One girl I remember, who was only 16 years old, went on a whore-spree and had sex with like 20 guys during a 3-month period. I lost all respect for American women and basically saw them as nothing but animals.

That all changed when I visited India. The women I met there were completely different. Real women, feminine women, women who weren’t brainwashed by the man-hating feminist culture of the West. Indian women had qualities of gentleness, submissiveness, humility, and kindness.

My wife is 18, I am 28. She is very humble and meek and has a good attitude. She cooks daily, cleans the house, and she never thinks that these tasks are “below her”, the way western women do. Yes, we will have children after a couple of years probably.

Did I pay her parents? No, they are honest people and did not ask anything and I did not ask a dowry from them either. Now, I have met some Indian girls who did dare to ask for money, which I thought was very offensive.

How did I get the idea to do this? Well, I was looking to get married, because in India, you cannot get sex without marriage.

It’s not like the West or other countries in Asia where you can have a girlfriend. Because India is still so traditional, the whole concept of marriage still applies. Now, if I was a man living in Thailand, I would not marry, as I can get all of my needs met by any old “massage parlor”. So the more women give away free sex, the less incentive there is for men to marry them. That is something western women should really think about.

How did I go about it? I met her parents, and they offered to marry their daughter to me, and so we arranged a marriage date and then did the wedding. Does she satisfy a need for companionship, yes I think so.

Is lack of education a factor? Well, I think lack of education is a good thing. Too much education for women turns them independent. The more educated a woman is, the less dependent she will be on men.

That is one major reason why women in the West are so independent- because they are way too educated. Western women are getting PhDs in Psychology and other useless subjects, but they don’t even know how to cook a good meal. So I’d call that kind of education completely useless!

My wife is like a real woman, actually acts feminine. So I am quite satisfied.

As for my work, I am self employed and
working through the internet and making quite a good amount of money for
India, even by western standards. This allows me to live very nicely in


In the bigger cities like Delhi, Mumbai, Bangalore, etc, Western “culture” is catching on fast, through the television shows, movies, and internet. Many Indian men are now openly complaining about how Indian women are no longer “traditional” or make good wives.

Of course, most Indian women are still quite good, but there is a growing number of radical feminist types and ultra-westernized types in the big cities.

There is a huge anti-feminist movement in India, with an estimated 30,000 Indian men’s rights activists. They are fighting against feminist laws in India such as 498a, which is a law that has been abused by many lying women.


How to meet Indian women, being a westerner? That is not so easy, as Indian women are quite shy and are almost afraid of westerners. If you want to meet Indian women, I’d recommend that you learn about the culture and the religion of India.

Also, there is a HUGE difference between Indian women who live in India and Indian women who live in the West. Indians are very easily influenced, so the Indian women who live in the West tend to get westernized extremely fast, and become even more westernized than western women.

So, if you want to meet an Indian girl, I recommend that you AVOID Indian women in the West, as they are generally more materialistic than western women, and try to meet Indian women who live in India.

How to do that practically? Well, I don’t recommend that you go to India simply for the purpose of meeting women. I’d recommend that you go there to learn about the culture and religion and spend some time there, as it is a relaxing place. There are many yoga organizations and spiritual organizations you can join and associate with in India. That may be one way you can meet girls.

Another way would be to work with some charity and do charity work in India. In India, they have marriage ads in the newspapers, so you could try that approach also, but I personally have more dignity than to do that.

Also, if you are a western man and you marry a woman from India or Asia, I also recommend that you go and live in her country, rather than bring her back to the West.

Arranged marriages are based more on concepts of duty and loyalty than western marriages. It’s hard to explain, as the concept exists in a paradigm that is completely outside of the western paradigm.

I was not previously married in America, and actually avoided women mostly by choice, so I was not leaving behind any bad relationships. I am an intelligent person and can understand things simply by seeing them, so I never had to go through the relationship meat grinder of America in order to understand how screwed up the women there are. Did you know that one in four American women take medication for a mental disorder?

All in all, I recommend that western
men check out India and other countries in Asia, and see how they like
the culture. I think you will find that they are very relaxing and
stress-free places compared to the West. It is the atmosphere of India
that attracts me the most, which is the main reason why I like India so

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